From Japanese women points of view,
French women seem so free and can choose their lives.
For example, in Japan we still have a lot of pressure
that women should get married until 30 years old.
In France, is there this kind of pressure from "society?"
Or in Japan, we have to get married before having kids.
But in France, there are many kids without marrige.
How do you feel about those difference?
And where do you think those difference coming from? Culture? History?
Do you think Japanese women have less freedom compare to French women?
Thanks to school,
women in France can access to high position but there will never be equal as men.
For a same position with same responsibilities,
a man will be more paid than a woman.
It’s a fact. Also, if a woman has a high position,
she generally choose not to have a family life.
Despite the fact we have a better access to kindergartens in France than in Japan,
none all people can access to it.
If people live in country side for instance, it’s not possible.
Also, kindergartens have strict rules and do not open as late as in Japan,
so women will have to go back home early to take care of the children anyway.
As for having kids before marriage or without being married at all,
I think it depends on social background.
If people live in a really traditional family,
the order marriage-children is a must.
But for most people now,
I think there is no issues to have children without getting married.
My parents weren’t married for instance.
And my father married is long time partner only a few years ago
despite being with my stepmother for more than 20 years lol
I think the difference is mostly cultural.
Japan is a group society, where family and kaisha (2 groups) are high evaluated.
Distancing yourself from the group is not well accepted by the society.
In France on the contrary, individualism is high evaluated.
So more people will do things on their own, as an act of freedom,
more it’s well socially accepted.
Also, I think Confucianism has played an important role Japanese society structure.
And unfortunately, according to this doctrine,
women have an important role in the household
but maybe not in the public places where men are main figures.
In France, we split with religion a long time ago,
so these kind of doctrines do not influence the French society structure anymore.
However, yes there is still these problems I talk about before
(fact we are less paid than men
and cannot maybe have a family life with a high position at work),
but I think it’s universal.
Each society of this planet is a patriarchy.
Bourdieu (French sociologist) has spoken a lot about that.
Men were afraid of women’s capacity to give life,
so they tried from the beginning of the time to take powers in other filed
(economy, food, etc.).
It’s an anthropological issue unfortunately.
To be continued!
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